Do you have a love-hate relationship with the holiday season, too?
This time of year is one of the most joyful while also being one of the most stressful. When you struggle with anxiety this time of year can be even more overwhelming than it is already. Luckily, there are some ways to avoid the added stress and anxiety that comes with the holiday season.
Here are 4 things to avoid this holiday season:
Having controversial conversation.
We all have those relatives that like to stir the pot a little bit. It seems like everyone believes that holidays are the best times to spark some arguments for the sake of entertainment. Whether you have a different philosophy about diet culture and weight loss, politics, last summer’s family vacation, or why dogs are better than cats- you don’t have to engage in the conversations. You are more than welcome to stand up and go to the bathroom or go on a walk if your family decides to argue for the fun of it. It’s not worth and stress and anxiety to sit and subject yourself to the topics that trigger your mental health.
Buying the “perfect” gift.
This time of year can be stressful when gift-giving seems to be expected. Its hard when you want to get the “perfect” gift for someone and you just can’t seem to find it. Maybe the “perfect” gift isn’t anything you can buy anyway. Take some time to reflect on your relationships and remember why you love them and why they love you. I’m sure it’s not because you gave them the best gift last year. Your worth and value is not based in what you have to offer. Heck, just write them a letter and bake them some cookies- that’s better than half of the trinket gifts out there anyway.
Going over budget.
It never fails. This is the most expensive time of the year and I can never seem to figure out why. It’s not just the gifts, either. For some reason money just seems to fall out of my wallet during December. But going over budget for the sake of meeting expectations of the season isn’t worth your mental health. Take some time to sit down and set a budget that you are comfortable with and doesn’t cause unnecessary stress. AND STICK TO IT. No one is going to know how much money you do or don’t spend anyway.
Wearing uncomfortable clothes.
For my sisters that struggle with ED and recovery, wear comfortable clothes. Wear something that makes you feel beautiful and like a 10 outta 10. Don’t wear those jeans that fit better last year, or that sweater that looks fine but makes you more aware of your body. Wear the outfit that feels good and makes you forget all about the body that you are in. If you are able to forget about your body, you will be able to be more present with your family and enjoy the season… not to mention the season goodies that you are free enjoy without any guilt.
Do what you need to do to make this season a healthy one. No seasonal expectation is worth sacrificing your mental health. Your only job is to be present and to enjoy the time that you get to spend with your loved ones.